One of my favourite quotes for reminding people that we may have no idea of the arduous journeys some of us have endured, just to get where we are today.
Some of us are born into poverty.
Some of us are born with disabilities.
Some of us are born into abusive situations.
It may have been a major struggle for someone to rise above their life challenges and even finish school with a few qualifications.
Yet some people think they can look at a low-paid manual worker as somehow ‘beneath’ them, assuming they didn’t try hard enough, or pay attention at school, and therefore ‘deserve’ low pay and poor working conditions.
That low-paid manual worker you’re judging could have been a young carer, getting up at 5 am every day to care for their sick or disabled single parent before school, having to stop off at shops on the way home to get food for dinner, then cooking it, and cleaning up the house, before collapsing into bed exhausted after putting their parent to bed, with no time or energy left to do homework, or study for exams.
The depths they may have climbed from could be vast, compared to the heights other people without such challenges have soared, and the effort they have put into their life immense.
Think about this next time you are tempted to look down on someone for their current station in life and just be grateful that your own life afforded you the luxury of not having the same challenges…
This is similar to what has propelled me to prioritise travelling myself – until 2 years ago, I’d only ever chosen to take 1 holiday to Majorca in my whole life, as I had developed a belief that foreign holidays weren’t for ‘people like me’.
After becoming chronically ill and then being diagnosed with a genetic condition a couple of years ago, I realised that none of us get out of this life alive and it was time to start prioritising my lifelong dream of travelling! We’ve cut down on ALL but the most vital expenditure, living frugally most days, and are manifesting the money to be able to afford it (something I again never believed possible, as I had such a poverty mindset!).
In just the last year I have pushed past my mental limitations to take my children for a day trip to France, then a trip to Venice for my partner and I, then 5 months later ANOTHER trip to Venice for my birthday, then two months after that, a mini-cruise to another part of France, and finally, we’ve just come back from a trip to Paris!
It’s physically been a challenge because of my health not being great these days (so at the moment, my dreams of walking the Great Wall of China and visiting Machu Picchu are on hold!), so I would urge ANYONE to stop living their dreams in their heads, and get out there living them in reality, whilst you’re still fit and healthy enough to really enjoy it!
A well known speaker started off her seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, she asked. “Who would like this $20 bill?”
Hands started going up. She said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you – but first, let me do this.”
She proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up. She then asked. “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air.
“Well,” she replied, “what if I do this?” She dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with her shoe. She picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”
Still the hands went into the air.
“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by …WHO WE ARE.
You are special – don’t ever forget it.”
Share this, as you might brighten someone’s day.
What Babies Want – An exploration of the consciousness of infants. A fascinating insight into how babies interact with the world, and what they need to thrive.
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The Business of Being Born – A straight-talking documentary about birth in the US
Inner Strength– Website originally in German, but the page can be translated and the trailer downloaded. The music is a little ‘intrusive’, but the actual births shown are magical and inspiring to watch, and beautifully demonstrate how much support partners can give 🙂
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It’s a common question that people ask themselves as they go through life, and can cause a great deal of anxiety when you reach certain stages in life (such as choosing which GCSEs to focus on studying in high school, choosing a career to focus on etc) and you don’t know. This great TED talk has answers for people just like you (and me!), who have reached middle-age and STILL don’t know what we want to be when we grow up…
And this is what studies have also shown ‘extinction methods’ of sleep training such as crying it out do to babies and children. As a culture we seem to be very uncomfortable with the sound of anyone crying, and I suspect this is because we have long learned to silence our own cries. So the sound of someone else giving voice to their own pain or discomfort triggers our own unheard feelings. This triggering of discomfort in ourselves is an indication that we need to heal our own pain and learn again to listen to our own feelings, and express them safely.