Some people will tell you that they “just know”, while others can identify several characteristics and reasons why they seem to perfectly mesh with their relationship counterpart.
For those of us who haven’t found a soul mate yet, there are things we can be looking for to speed up the process. There are always going to be things we like and dislike about others, but the true test is deciding whether or not we can lovingly accept the negative attributes.
Sometimes we care about someone very much, but discover that there is some factor that we simply cannot accept for one reason or another.
Here are some factors to think about when looking for a soul mate:
Morals & Beliefs. Everyone comes with their own set of morals and beliefs. We all know that we should be open, honest, and accepting of others. But oftentimes when our core beliefs differ, it’s hard to have a lasting relationship. This is why you’ll want to have deep discussions about faith, morals, and beliefs with potential partners. If someone isn’t a fit at this deep of a level, you should seriously consider whether the relationship is even worth getting serious about.
Communication. You’ll hear over and over that communication is the key. There are different ways of communicating and you need to figure out the best way to communicate with your partner. At the same time you need to know that you can live with this communication method. Some partners are big on talking, while others are more sensitive to nonverbal communication.
Respect. Does the potential partner respect you, your body, and your family? You’re one of a kind, so you shouldn’t give yourself to just anyone. Make sure he or she takes care of you and your family. You’re worth it!
Family. You need to mesh well with their family and vice versa. Discussions about family also include your hopes and dreams when it comes to your own future family. Do you want to get married someday? If so, how many kids would you like to have?
Personality. Your personality plays a big role in deciding your compatibility with others. However, it’s always up for debate whether or not it’s best to be with someone with a similar personality or someone with an opposite personality. In this case, you’ll have to decide your own preference and see how it works out for you.
Hobbies & Interests. It’s pretty certain that you won’t share every hobby and interest that your partner enjoys. However, it definitely helps the relationship when you have things in common. This will provide you with activities to do with each other in order to deepen your relationship. There will also be plenty of topics for conversation.
Conflict. Even the most perfect couples deal with conflict from time to time. Both you and your partner need to learn the best methods to get through arguments effectively. Try not to lash out in anger, instead strive to understand your partner. Instead of playing the blame game, discuss your problems calmly. If your potential mate attacks you or consistently ignores your feelings, then it’s perhaps not a good fit.
Long Term Relationships
When you first meet someone, you may be attracted to his or her looks or personality. As you get to know each other better, you’ll be able to see the clues as to whether or not you’ve found your true soul mate.
Try not to rush things along because anything worth having is worth waiting for! At the same time, you definitely should be having deep conversations about future plans and beliefs at an appropriate time in the relationship. This way if you run into a snag and find out that you can’t be together, you won’t be as emotionally invested. After all, you don’t want to waste as much time in a dead end relationship.
You always have to keep your chin up and have hope. Keep looking with an open heart and mind, because everyone’s soul mate is out there somewhere.
4 Keys to an Honest and Successful New Relationship
Starting a new relationship can be difficult, as it takes a great deal of time and effort. If important details are omitted during those first few formative conversations, you could be looking at a rocky road ahead.
Starting with a strong foundation of friendship and trust is important when you’re building a new relationship. A foundation built on honesty can mean the difference between a healthy relationship and one that leaves much to be desired.
Consider these keys to an honest and successful new relationship:
Share the reasons why your last relationship ended. It’s not only fair, but also important for your new dating partner to understand what caused the breakup of your last relationship. This is especially true if you’re to blame. Your honesty and candidness will be appreciated.
Showing this new person that you’re remorseful about your past actions allows them to see how you’ve learned from your past and wish to do things differently now.
By sharing your past relationship challenges, you could avoid repeating them.
If this new person doesn’t stick around after your outpouring, chances are they weren’t “the one“ after all. Don’t worry – your match is still out there waiting for you!
Discuss what you’re looking for in this relationship.Try not to paint a false picture of your expectations. Your new friend might feel flattered to hear that you see a “lifelong mate” in them, but be honest about wanting to take things slowly if that’s where your head is.
Explain your feelings about what you want from this relationship and justify the reasons. Maturity goes a long way in getting the most out of any situation.
Be prepared to give the same things you expect so both parties are treated fairly. Remember that a relationship is a two way street.
Divulge your strengths and weaknesses. It’s natural to want to put your best foot forward when being courted by someone new, but the easiest way to lose that person’s trust is to portray yourself as somebody you’re not. Show a willingness to reveal your weaknesses, as well. Vulnerability goes a long way in inspiring the trust of others.
Let your new partner know that you don’t always have the best advice, but you’re the best listener in the world!
Explain that you sometimes require encouragement to pursue something intimidating that you’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t.
Avoid sacrificing your morals for love. Even if you feel your new love interest is the biggest blessing, it’s important to be honest about certain issues you can’t tolerate or those that might be deal breakers.
Once you get things out in the open, there’s a choice. If the love is real, the person will understand your morals and respect your position.
It’s important to express your emotions when your new friend does something you don’t like so it’s clear that you don’t want it to happen again.
Remember that your beliefs make you the person you are. Avoid becoming somebody else for the sake of love!
The sooner you address potential issues in an honest way, the closer you’ll be to building a strong, healthy relationship with someone special. Honesty is always the best policy! If being honest doesn’t give you the results you want, maybe it wasn’t meant to be, and something better is in store for you!
A well known speaker started off her seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, she asked. “Who would like this $20 bill?”
Hands started going up. She said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you – but first, let me do this.”
She proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up. She then asked. “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air.
“Well,” she replied, “what if I do this?” She dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with her shoe. She picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”
Still the hands went into the air.
“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.
Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.
Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by …WHO WE ARE.
“The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is”
My wonderful 9 year old son is so much like Jim Carrey! He is deeply sensitive to other people’s negative emotions and he tries so hard to transform those into positive ones by making people laugh. His auntie came to meet him when he was just a few hours old, looked into his eyes, and saw the light and laughter in them, even then. She declared that he was going to be a ‘cheeky little chap’, and he is indeed! He’s ‘the class joker’, the one who loves to make people giggle and raise their vibration. Interestingly though, he doesn’t like performing on stage – he’s a one-to-one person, tuning into individual feelings and doing what he can to help them feel better, whether it’s offering a hug, encouragement and support, or a silly joke to make them laugh.
What can YOU do today, with YOUR talents, to leave people feeling better after an interaction with you/your work…?