This is why it’s so important A) to do your own healing work before becoming parents, B) to be aware of the current research into attachment and children’s brain development, and the parenting practices that both contribute to it and can harm it, and C) learn how to help your children express their emotions so their own issues don’t remain ‘unresolved’ ❤
“NICABM and Sensorimotor Psychotherapy are at the cutting edge of uncovering the links between trauma reactions embedded in the limbic system and inappropriate, uncontrolled reactive behaviours being triggered by outward stimuli.
These defensive reactions – fight, flight, freeze, attachment seeking (sometimes inappropriate), submission/folding/giving up – are evolutionary survival strategies embedded and embodied. They are at the root of attacking others and ourselves. They lie at the heart of the human condition.
Any form of trauma that is unresolved remains “watchfully” nascent within parts of the brain, ready to trigger the defensive reactions whenever resonant circumstances arise in our day to day life.
Early trauma… especially failures in development due to repeated absence of bodily and physiological safety needs along with failures to belong, to be loved, to be esteemed (see Maslow) leave us “chained” to our defences rather than “free to Be” in the world.”