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What to Look For in a Soul Mate

How do you know when you’ve found your soul mate?

Some people will tell you that they “just know”, while others can identify several characteristics and reasons why they seem to perfectly mesh with their relationship counterpart.

For those of us who haven’t found a soul mate yet, there are things we can be looking for to speed up the process. There are always going to be things we like and dislike about others, but the true test is deciding whether or not we can lovingly accept the negative attributes.

Sometimes we care about someone very much, but discover that there is some factor that we simply cannot accept for one reason or another.

Here are some factors to think about when looking for a soul mate:

  1. Morals & Beliefs. Everyone comes with their own set of morals and beliefs. We all know that we should be open, honest, and accepting of others. But oftentimes when our core beliefs differ, it’s hard to have a lasting relationship. This is why you’ll want to have deep discussions about faith, morals, and beliefs with potential partners. If someone isn’t a fit at this deep of a level, you should seriously consider whether the relationship is even worth getting serious about.
  2. Communication. You’ll hear over and over that communication is the key. There are different ways of communicating and you need to figure out the best way to communicate with your partner. At the same time you need to know that you can live with this communication method. Some partners are big on talking, while others are more sensitive to nonverbal communication.
  3. Respect. Does the potential partner respect you, your body, and your family? You’re one of a kind, so you shouldn’t give yourself to just anyone. Make sure he or she takes care of you and your family. You’re worth it!
  4. Family. You need to mesh well with their family and vice versa. Discussions about family also include your hopes and dreams when it comes to your own future family. Do you want to get married someday? If so, how many kids would you like to have?
  5. Personality. Your personality plays a big role in deciding your compatibility with others. However, it’s always up for debate whether or not it’s best to be with someone with a similar personality or someone with an opposite personality. In this case you’ll have to decide your own preference and see how it works out for you.
  6. Hobbies & Interests. It’s pretty certain that you won’t share every hobby and interest that your partner enjoys. However, it definitely helps the relationship when you have things in common. This will provide you with activities to do with each other in order to deepen your relationship. There will also be plenty of topics for conversation.
  7. Conflict. Even the most perfect couples deal with conflict from time to time. Both you and your partner need to learn the best methods to get through arguments effectively. Try not to lash out in anger, instead strive to understand your partner. Instead of playing the blame game, discuss your problems calmly. If your potential mate attacks you or consistently ignores your feelings, then it’s perhaps not a good fit.

Long Term Relationships

When you first meet someone, you may be attracted to his or her looks or personality. As you get to know each other better, you’ll be able to see the clues as to whether or not you’ve found your true soul mate.

Try not to rush things along because anything worth having is worth waiting for! At the same time, you definitely should be having deep conversations about future plans and beliefs at an appropriate time in the relationship. This way if you run into a snag and find out that you can’t be together, you won’t be as emotionally invested. After all, you don’t want to waste as much time in a dead end relationship.

You always have to keep your chin up and have hope. Keep looking with an open heart and mind, because everyone’s soul mate is out there somewhere.

Connecting Through Speaking the Same Love Language

Everyone needs to feel loved. It’s vital to know how you enjoy being loved, but also how to properly love others so they actually FEEL loved by you.  A doctor by the name of Gary Chapman became famous when he wrote a book called The Five Love Languages.


There is a basic breakdown of five different love languages to make it easier for us to identify how to express ourselves to our loved ones. Once you’ve figured out what your partner’s love language is you’ll be able to show them how you feel in a way that is fulfilling to them.

For example, let’s say that your partner likes to hear the words “I love you” often. Even though they know that you love them, just hearing the phrase can brighten their day. But perhaps you thought that you should express your love by buying little gifts. Your loved one likely appreciates the gesture whenever you show your love, but at the same time it’s not their personal preference of how they like to receive love.

The Love Languages Explained

  1. Verbal Lovers. Like the example above, some people just like to hear gestures of love such as “I love you” and “I appreciate everything that you do.” For this type of person, you’ll want to provide constant encouragement, never letting things go unsaid.
    • Try verbalizing your appreciations in some way each day.
    • Don’t assume your partner knows what you’re thinking and feeling – speak up!
  2. Time Well Spent. One of the love languages has to do with spending quality time with your partner. This doesn’t mean just casual conversation; it means the times where your partner is your main focus. If your partner enjoys quality time, here are some things to consider:
    • Choose a certain time each day or week where you’re completely dedicated to your partner. This means that you need to shut off the TV, put down the paper, and take some away from the kids.
    • Think of activities you can do together to really connect.
    • Make sure you have a good relationship with yourself; it’s the only way you can truly connect with your partner.
  3. The Gift Giver. Another love language is one where your partner may enjoy giving and receiving gifts. This isn’t because they’re greedy; it means they’re visual people who enjoy seeing proof of your deepening relationship. If you’re with this type of partner, try these tips:
      • Even if you’re a big saver, make the effort to spend at least a little money or make some homemade or handmade gifts.
      • Leave loving cards and notes for them.
      • Don’t give gifts everyday, but give gifts that are meaningful.
  4. The Chores. We can’t forget the chores when it comes to a language of communication between partners. Since there are many things that need to get done around the house, it often causes problems when you try to figure out who’s doing what. Keep these tips in mind:
      • Everyone has different chores that they deem important.
      • Figure out which ones your partner doesn’t enjoy and do them.
      • Chores involve thinking ahead, which your partner will certainly appreciate.
  5. Physical Affection. The physical affection love language can get complicated. Expressing your love physically doesn’t only mean lovemaking. It involves simple touches too. Each partner will usually have some kind of opinion when it comes to this language:
    • Figure out which kinds of touches your partner enjoys, it may be a gentle rub of their shoulders or some cuddling while watching television.
    • This is equally important; figure out which touches irritate your partner.
    • Get to know your partner’s moods so you know when to express physical affection.

The Combination

Your partner will likely speak a certain combination of these love languages. As your relationship deepens, you’ll get to know your partner better and better. It may even help to outright discuss the topic of love languages with your partner to better understand each other.

 

Further Reading/Resources

The Five Love Languages

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Travelling as a Couple: Tripping Your Way to Love!

Travelling as a Couple: Tripping Your Way to Love!

Enhancing your romantic relationship can be done in many ways. One strategy that can truly enrich your connection is to plan and take a trip together.

Take action with these ideas and deepen your love for each other:

  1. Plan a time to talk about trips you’d like to take. Something magical takes place when a couple shares their travel desires.
    • Listen carefully to what your partner says about the places they want to visit.
    • Can you see it in their eyes—the excitement, the wonder of the locale?
    • Decide on a destination you’ll both enjoy.
  2. Share hopes. As the time for your trip draws nearer, bring it up as a topic of special conversation between just the two of you.
    • Ask what your partner is looking forward to the most.
    • Share what you’re most excited about.
    • Half of the joy you feel about the trip occurs before you actually take the journey.
    • Make the time leading up to your trip one of intimate conversation.
  3. Research some specific romantic locales for the trip. Include some extra-sizzling sites on your itinerary.
    • Romantic experiences can provide the most memorable moments of your trip.  
    • If you’re travelling to an ocean side city, plan a morning or evening walk on the beach.
    • Find a restaurant with a flair for romance, like a private dining room, foods you eat with your fingers, or soft sofa seats made for cuddling.
    • And what’s more romantic than a night out in Paris with the lights of the Eiffel Tower glistening?
  4. Write something romantic to your partner. In anticipation of your trip, write words to express your love to your partner.
    • Compose a poem, buy a greeting card, or simply profess your love in a detailed letter.
    • If you’re an artist, you can even include a picture you sketched.
    • Present your “love letter” to your partner the night before or the morning you leave for your trip. Start off your trip with a great romantic gesture!
  5. Schedule in couple’s time in the hotel. Being alone together in a hotel in an exotic locale will allow you to relax and enjoy each other.
  6. Every year, strive to have a week-long trip alone. Consider yearly trips to be necessary relationship maintenance. If you’re unable to spare the time or money for a week, then shoot for a long weekend.
    • Continue to rediscover what’s special about your partner.
  7. Focus on making frequent eye contact. The eyes are the window to the soul. View every moment of your partner’s reaction to seeing the destination for the first time. If you’re returning to a favourite place, there’s likely some sort of magic there for you.
    • Plan on staying in tune with the love of your life on this trip by gazing into their eyes and renewing the love you share.
  8. Work in a few surprises during your travels. Unexpected pleasures are often the best part of travel. Plan a special dinner your partner doesn’t know about or go on a surprise shopping spree.
    • Be spontaneous! Even walking around a farmers market in the morning in San Francisco or visiting a sacred place can be a truly awesome experience.
  9. Document your memories with a postcard. Here’s a simple suggestion to keep the wonderful memories of the trip alive after it’s over. Find a postcard that captures a wonderful memory and mail it to your partner. 
    • Write something wonderful like, “I’m so glad I got to share this trip with you,” or “I know I’ll remember this vacation forever,” or a simple “I love you more than words can say.”
    • The postcard will likely be delivered before you arrive home or a few days later. Your mate will be touched that you thought to mail them a romantic postcard during the trip.

With a little imagination and effort, you can experience a romantic and memorable time with the love of your life. Trip your way to love this year and every year thereafter.

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11 Secrets from Seniors on Finding Lasting Love

Seniors can offer a unique perspective on marriage and lasting love. Their decades of experience can help you find love that lasts.

These are their secrets:

    1. Listen to your family. Couples can benefit from listening to advice from family members. Family members can offer a different viewpoint on the relationship. Their approval may not be necessary for you to find happiness, but seniors state that listening to family matters.
    2. Listen to your friends. Your friends can also offer an interesting perspective on the relationship. Friends who care about your relationship can give advice.
    3. Watch your partner during a game. Seniors recommend playing a board game together and watching your partner’s reaction.Games can reveal your love’s competitive side. They can also show you how they handle stress and rivalry. Watching their reactions and noting patterns will reveal important clues about your compatibility and future. Lasting love is built with care and concern for each other, so watch for clues.
    4. Seek forgiveness. All relationships have issues, but it’s important to seek forgiveness. Instead of keeping score on who should ask for forgiveness first, you can make the smart choice and establish a conversation. Seniors state that forgiveness is essential in a relationship, and it must be meaningful. Dwelling on the issue can make it a bigger challenge. Instead, figure out a way to deal with it as a couple and listen to each other. A mutual decision to avoid resentment can help.
    5. Continue dating each other. Create a date night once a month or more frequently. It can be added to both of your schedules, and you can plan in advance. Dating gives romance new energy, so you can build a stronger relationship.
    6. Watch for common interests. Sharing common interests helps to maintain a relationship. Do you enjoy the same type of movies? Do you like to spend your weekends hiking or exploring new parts of a city? If you share common interests, it’s easier to keep up conversations and find activities you can do together.
    7. Set aside a weekend morning or afternoon to talk. Couples can easily become distracted by work, children, and other activities. However, talking to each other can help you bond. Discussions about your past, present, and future are at the heart of strong relationships. A lasting marriage relies on both partners to communicate frequently and effectively. By setting aside a specific time in your schedule to talk, you’ll rediscover the joy in your connection.
    8. Create a reasonable amount of space. Couples need to do activities together, but they also benefit from having a reasonable amount of alone time.
    9. Make an effort in your appearance. Seniors explain that making an effort to look presentable and beautiful for your partner matters. It’s easy to get distracted and feel tired. Staying in your favourite sweatpants or pyjamas may be more comfortable, but it’s not helping the romance aspect of your relationship. Seniors suggest that both men and women dress up frequently for each other.
    10. Give each other cute pet names. Nicknames can help you bond, and they can help you discover what your partner thinks of you.
    11. Make an effort to support each other. You can find ways to help each other at work and at home. You can attend important events to show others you care about your partner’s job. You can also manage chores by sharing them at home.

Seniors have years of experience in maintaining their relationships. Their advice can help you find true love that lasts forever.

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

6 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

Unfortunately, there aren’t many classes in high school or college that teach us how to be successful in long-term relationships and divorce is common. That’s regrettable, because a fulfilling relationship can contribute so much toward enjoying a happy and successful life.

There are many things you can do to strengthen your marriage and help make it last until death do you part. If you want to have the best chance of marital success, it’s a wise idea to learn some of these strategies.

Researchers have shared these tips on how to strengthen marriages and make them last:

    1. Have realistic expectations. It’s easy to make it through the early stages of a relationship when everything is new and exciting. But those annoying little habits aren’t quite as cute and endearing ten years into the future. A relationship requires work and energy to grow and thrive.
    2. Become good at saying “I’m sorry.” Despite your best efforts, you’ll make mistakes in your marriage. Studies have shown that the people slowest to apologize are the ones most likely to stay single or get divorced.
        • Sometimes you have to decide if you’d rather be correct or happy. Be strong enough to say you’re sorry and move on.
    3. It’s okay to argue in a respectful way. The presence of arguing in a relationship doesn’t affect its success as much as how a couple argues. One psychologist claims a 95% success rate for predicting which relationships would fail just by listening to an argument for five minutes!
        • The four factors that make all the difference when you argue are: contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and withdrawing. Avoid these behaviours and your marriage is more likely to survive.
    4. Laugh together. Remember the good times you’ve shared. Talk about and relive them. Reminiscing about fun times helps keep couples together.
        • Consider creating some happy, new memories and remind your partner about the great times you’ve already enjoyed. Laughing together strengthens your marriage!
    5. You need five good times for each bad one. Research has shown that marriages require at least five positive interactions for each negative one. What is a good interaction? A fun afternoon, a positive conversation, or a good hug. You know what a negative interaction is.
    6. You can complain, but avoid criticizing. If your partner’s behaviour is bothering you, it’s okay to point it out and ask them to stop. But, avoid attacking your partner. You can say, “It drives me crazy when you throw your dirty socks all over the floor.” But avoid saying, “You’re such a slob. What’s your problem?”
        • Most people can accept that they might be doing something bothersome. However, that’s different from being personally attacked.

A happy marriage is important for you and your children. There are times when we all have to put our own needs aside and do whatever we can to strengthen our relationships. These tips will help you work toward a happy partnership as you give your marriage the time and attention it deserves.

5 Ways to Nurture a Positive Relationship

5 Ways to Nurture a Positive Relationship

A positive relationship can be one of the most wonderful things in the world, while a negative one can turn your life into a disaster!

Do you yearn to cultivate a positive relationship with your partner and help it grow stronger? Having a positive relationship takes effort from both of you, but you can get it started. Your partner will surely enjoy the benefits and follow your lead.

Here are five important techniques you can use to nurture your relationship:

  1. Give 100%. First and foremost, if you want to build a relationship that’s positive, passionate, and withstanding, you need to give 100% of yourself. This is one of the most important things for success, not only in your relationships, but life in general.
    • There’s no “50/50” when it comes to giving in a relationship. You’ve got to give freely of yourself if it’s going to work. It’s almost impossible to receive from your partner if you don’t give in return.
    • Remember the golden rule. When you fully give of yourself, the other person will see the effort you’re making and soon begin to reciprocate with the same type of behaviour.
  2. Focus on loving your partner. In nurturing a positive relationship, your main focus should be on simply loving your partner. Show your love in both your words and actions, in all you say and do.
    • The expression “actions speak louder than words,” is definitely true when it comes to a relationship. However, your partner still wants to hear you say, “I love you.”
    • Be generous with compliments and mean what you say.
  3. Use charitable acts. The things you do for your partner make a difference in your relationship. When you love someone, acts of kindness toward him or her come naturally.
    • No action should be done just because you feel obligated to do it. The things you do for your partner should be done because you want to do them.
    • Remember, your actions are more important than your words, so use them to help build up a relationship that’s naturally positive.
  4. Respect your partner. Always respect your partner in every way to build a lasting and positive relationship with them. Respect is an important building block of any relationship.

    • Respect your partner not only in a physical sense, but also mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well.
  5. Build a strong friendship. Your romantic relationship needs to have the stability and deep roots that come from a strong friendship. With a meaningful friendship as its basis, your relationship becomes stronger and more lasting.
  • When you work hard to construct a strong friendship, you can be assured that your relationship is ready to weather whatever life may throw at you in the future.

If your goal is to create a stronger bond with your partner, take the time to think about what it is you’d like from your partner. Give those things to your partner, and you’ll almost always find the answers you seek about how to create a nurturing relationship.

Following these five steps can have a positive impact on any relationship. Once you begin taking care of your relationship and making a conscious effort to improve it, you’ll see a stronger, more positive bond flourishing before your eyes.

5 Ways to Move On After Your Breakup

5 Ways to Move On After Your Breakup

Whether it is a short-term casual relationship, long-term serious relationship, or a marriage gone awry, you might experience a challenging breakup. You could even be going through a split right now.

Sometimes, relationships end despite our best efforts. Whatever the case, it’s a smart idea to have some expert strategies in your emotional toolbox to navigate those waters, should they develop.

Apply these methods to help you survive the end of a relationship:

  1. Take time to ponder what’s happened to you. It’s common to try to work extra hours, stay away from home, or avoid being alone to prevent having to emotionally face the absence of a partner.
    • However, you’ll gain a better understanding of what’s happened if you spend some moments identifying the events that led to the break-up.
    • This step may be tough for you to do. If so, limit the time you’ll allow yourself to think about the relevant facts of the situation to a half-hour a day.
  2. Get together with friends and family. Resting your mind and emotions from the recent trauma of the breakup helps you heal. Leaning on those you love will help tremendously when it comes to your recovery. It also provides a welcome distraction.
  3. Perform a positive personal inventory. You’re likely aware of what your not-so-positive traits are. But at this time in your life, you’ll be well on your way to surviving the breakup if you consider your strengths.
    • Maybe you’re tall, dark, and handsome with an analytical mind. Perhaps you have beautiful brown eyes and an incredible way of making others feel comfortable around you.
    • The point is to remind yourself of all your positive qualities so you’ll realize you still have a lot going for you.
    • Make your list as long as possible. You could use the boost right now.
  4. Listen to your own feelings about whether to have contact with your ex-partner. If your former partner texts or calls saying, “Let’s remain friends,” after the break-up, take your time and decide whether or not you really want to do that.
    • They may call you a month later and invite you to meet for coffee. It’s your decision. Are you ready to see them? Do you want to try to maintain “friendly” contact?
    • Do what feels comfortable for you. Frankly, what’s best for you in such a complex situation is difficult to surmise. Follow your instincts.
    • Of course, if there was prior emotional or physical abuse in the relationship, saying “no” to future contact is likely the best choice.
  5. Try something new. Get yourself out of your own head and back in to the mainstream of life. Challenge yourself to learn something new or pursue a hidden passion. To illustrate, consider the following suggestions as examples of putting your toe in unfamiliar, yet fascinating waters:
  • Volunteer for the child-mentoring agency you’ve been interested in for the last few years,
  • Take a course in Music History at your local community college.
  • Join a local club that does fund-raising for charities.
  • Learn a new skill, like wood-crafting, making stained glass, or jewellery-making,

Although it’s true a tough breakup is no fun to go through, rest assured you have the ability to help yourself survive this challenging life event.

You’re the master of your choices and your life. As the natural healing process takes place after a split, you’ll discover the confidence to say, “I will have a great life from now on” and mean it.

Parenting in the Early Days!

Parenting Baby B is a little like taking a 10lb + weight and fixing it permanently to your nipple!!! Your boobs are out more than Kim Kardashian’s butt! But your OWN ass is almost constantly welded to a chair, surrounded by everything you might need for the next 12 hours within grab range – snacks, water bottle, phone, breast pump, laptop, books etc.

Because you’re not going ANYWHERE!! Because whenever you try to unattach the 10lb + weight to do, oh I don’t know, trivial things like go to the loo or grab some more snacks, it gives off an instant loud klaxon noise, to alert the world that horrific child abuse is taking place 😉 And hearing that noise, and seeing that little face so unhappy, hurts my heart more than sitting in one position for hours on end hurts my body, even with my joints seizing up so that when I finally move, I’m like a cripple until I can stretch them out and gently ease them into moving again!

So it’s a good job that 10lb + weight occasionally opens its beautiful blue eyes, looks up at me from beneath long, beautiful eyelashes, and beams the most angelic smiles that would make even Emperor Palpatine turn away from the Dark Side 🙂 And is why, despite the challenges, I wake up every morning, feel my heart burst with pride and joy when I see that little 10 + weight, and attach it to me again, for another day of the same… Heart3.2 copy

5 Tips for Curing Your Pre-Wedding Jitters

5 Tips for Curing Your Pre-Wedding Jitters

Have you had a case of pre-wedding nerves? Although you’re looking forward to your wedding day, preparing for it may be stressful!

Pre-wedding jitters can become evident during the days leading up to the event, and may be extremely distracting on the actual wedding day. The goal of your big day is to relax and enjoy your special time with your beloved, family, and friends. With a little preparation, you can avoid those jitters completely.

If you’re approaching the big day, here are some helpful tips you can use to calm your nerves:

  1. Think of all the reasons why you love your partner. You’re getting married to someone you truly love – at least you should be! Bringing to mind those positive feelings will help flood you with joy whenever you start to feel anxious or nervous. Think about:
    • All the ways he or she has shown you that they love you.
    • A trait of theirs that you really cherish.
    • All of the things you have in common.
  2. Listen to soothing music. You may be surprised at how effective relaxing music can be at soothing anxiety. Whether you listen to mellow instrumentals or down-tempo jazz, the result will be the same. You’ll notice how much more relaxed you are after listening to gentle music in a quiet place.
  3. Get spiritually calm. You don’t have to be religious to be spiritual. Being spiritual just involves getting in touch with your inner strength and drawing on that to take you through challenges.
    • Spend some time with a spiritual leader. This can be someone who shares your faith. Or perhaps talk to a friend or family member whose advice you trust and radiates peace.
    • Meditate in the privacy of your bedroom or a luxurious, relaxing bath. You can also find peace and contentment meditating outdoors surrounded by the sights, sounds, and smells of nature. Connect with your inner self. From that connection you’ll be able to build your confidence and quell any doubts.
  4. Soak in a lavender bath. If curing those pre-wedding jitters means drawing yourself a lavender bath every time you feel antsy, just do it! Lavender is proven to have calming effects. Try soaking in a moderately warm, herb-infused bath for about fifteen minutes. It’ll help melt those jitters away!
  5. Laugh. When you laugh, your body releases stress-fighting substances. Laughter helps you relax and release tension. Call a friend with a great sense of humour and tell them that you need a little perspective on your big day. Check out a comedy show or a funny movie. Whatever you choose to help you laugh, fully engage with it. That way, you’ll get the most out of your precious relaxation time.

Your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life. You and your partner have made every effort to ensure the day goes smoothly. Be sure to plan a little time to relax beforehand. Then you’ll have the memorable, fulfilling wedding you’ve been dreaming of!

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4 Keys to an Honest and Successful New Relationship

4 Keys to an Honest and Successful New Relationship

Starting a new relationship can be difficult, as it takes a great deal of time and effort. If important details are omitted during those first few formative conversations, you could be looking at a rocky road ahead.

Starting with a strong foundation of friendship and trust is important when you’re building a new relationship. A foundation built on honesty can mean the difference between a healthy relationship and one that leaves much to be desired.

Consider these keys to an honest and successful new relationship:

  1. Share the reasons why your last relationship ended. It’s not only fair, but also important for your new dating partner to understand what caused the breakup of your last relationship. This is especially true if you’re to blame. Your honesty and candidness will be appreciated.
    • Showing this new person that you’re remorseful about your past actions allows them to see how you’ve learned from your past and wish to do things differently now.
    • By sharing your past relationship challenges, you could avoid repeating them.
    • If this new person doesn’t stick around after your outpouring, chances are they weren’t the one after all. Don’t worry – your match is still out there waiting for you!
  2. Discuss what you’re looking for in this relationship. Try not to paint a false picture of your expectations. Your new friend might feel flattered to hear that you see a “lifelong mate” in them, but be honest about wanting to take things slowly if that’s where your head is.
    • Explain your feelings about what you want from this relationship and justify the reasons. Maturity goes a long way in getting the most out of any situation.
    • Be prepared to give the same things you expect so both parties are treated fairly. Remember that a relationship is a two way street.
  3. Divulge your strengths and weaknesses. It’s natural to want to put your best foot forward when being courted by someone new, but the easiest way to lose that person’s trust is to portray yourself as somebody you’re not. Show a willingness to reveal your weaknesses, as well. Vulnerability goes a long way in inspiring the trust of others.
    • Let your new partner know that you don’t always have the best advice, but you’re the best listener in the world!
    • Explain that you sometimes require encouragement to pursue something intimidating that you’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t.
  4. Avoid sacrificing your morals for love. Even if you feel your new love interest is the biggest blessing, it’s important to be honest about certain issues you can’t tolerate or those that might be deal breakers.
  • Once you get things out in the open, there’s a choice. If the love is real, the person will understand your morals and respect your position.
  • It’s important to express your emotions when your new friend does something you don’t like so it’s clear that you don’t want it to happen again.
  • Remember that your beliefs make you the person you are. Avoid becoming somebody else for the sake of love!

Never be so afraid

The sooner you address potential issues in an honest way, the closer you’ll be to building a strong, healthy relationship with someone special. Honesty is always the best policy! If being honest doesn’t give you the results you want, maybe it wasn’t meant to be, and something better is in store for you!