Sometimes Mums struggle to breastfeed.
And sometimes, it’s photos like this that keep us striving to make it work, regardless of the sacrifice it takes.
Some Mums endure painful, sore, bleeding nipples, when every feed causes them such agony that their toes curl as their baby latches on.
Some Mums completely change their diets to be able to keep breastfeeding when their little ones have allergies; giving up dairy, wheat, soya, all so they can keep feeding.
Some Mums refuse medication for their own medical conditions, increasing their own suffering, because of concerns about a drug passing through the milk to their baby.
Some Mums express between feeds, morning, afternoon, evening and throughout the night, to either increase their milk supply, or provide enough milk for when they’re away from their baby at work, or if their baby is in special care, or if they can’t latch due to prematurity or disability.
And when it all feels SO hard and exhausting, when the sacrifice feels just too much, it’s photos of just HOW amazing breastfeeding is that might just keep that Mum from giving up, inspiring her to keep on keeping on for the sake of her baby’s health.
In this Facebook Post, a Mum describes how her daughter was ill and she pumped milk the morning after. The colour was vastly different to the usual white, more closely resembling colostrum, the antibody-rich first milk that Mums make to boost their newborn’s immune system and protect them in the first few days of life.
This article explains this process in more detail.
Our bodies are incredible! And deserve respect and a massive high-five for what they do, without us even having to be consciously aware of it 🙂
To all those Mums finding feeding a challenge but still trying to find a way to make it work, we salute you 🙂
And your babies salute you too
Parenting Baby B is a little like taking a 10lb + weight and fixing it permanently to your nipple!!! Your boobs are out more than Kim Kardashian’s butt! But your OWN ass is almost constantly welded to a chair, surrounded by everything you might need for the next 12 hours within grab range – snacks, water bottle, phone, breast pump, laptop, books etc.
Because you’re not going ANYWHERE!! Because whenever you try to unattach the 10lb + weight to do, oh I don’t know, trivial things like go to the loo or grab some more snacks, it gives off an instant loud klaxon noise, to alert the world that horrific child abuse is taking place 😉 And hearing that noise, and seeing that little face so unhappy, hurts my heart more than sitting in one position for hours on end hurts my body, even with my joints seizing up so that when I finally move, I’m like a cripple until I can stretch them out and gently ease them into moving again!
So it’s a good job that 10lb + weight occasionally opens its beautiful blue eyes, looks up at me from beneath long, beautiful eyelashes, and beams the most angelic smiles that would make even Emperor Palpatine turn away from the Dark Side 🙂 And is why, despite the challenges, I wake up every morning, feel my heart burst with pride and joy when I see that little 10 + weight, and attach it to me again, for another day of the same…
Adapted from Karen Pohlner
As a pregnancy progresses and the baby continues to grow, available space within the uterus reduces resulting in less room for the baby to move. The baby’s head eventually becomes heavier than its bottom and under normal circumstances around 32 weeks gestation the baby sinks down head first into the pelvis and engages in preparation for birth.
Breech presentation: The Incidence
Between 29-32 weeks 15% of all babies will be in a breech position. This means that the baby is presenting with its buttocks, knees or feet pointing down, essentially poised to come out bottom first. Only 3-4% of these presentations will stay in this position until labour.
As such breech presentation is considered normal in pre-term pregnancies and is not generally medically diagnosed until the last few weeks of pregnancy.
When is breech presentation a problem?
While the majority of breech babies turn spontaneously before birth, the longer a baby stays in the breech position with conditions becoming more cramped, the less likely it will be to turn of its own volition.
Vaginal birth for a breech baby is becoming less common as the skills to assist women have been lost. Most doctors recommend a Caesarean birth for breech babies, largely due to this lack of skills, and general fear in the medical community around facilitating a breech birth. The remedy for this situation is to find a supportive, confident caregiver, or to find an effective way of turning the baby quickly and safely to the physiologically desirable head-down position. If their baby remains in breech position their freedom of choice around birthing options is reduced and the time to turn the baby naturally is fast running out.
What is Moxibustion?
Moxibustion is an externally applied Traditional Chinese Medicine treatment using a Chinese herb called Moxa (Artemisia argyi), commonly known as ‘Mugwort’. For external use, Moxa is compressed and rolled into a cigar-shaped herbal stick. Moxa sticks are then lit and held over acupuncture points. The radiant heat produced has the effect of stimulating the point.
Some practitioners will use ‘smokeless Moxa’, an alternative, charcoaled preparation of the herb which as the name suggests produces much less smoke, making it more suitable for use in the clinic and at home.
How is moxa used to turn breech babies?
During a TCM consultation to turn a breech baby the practitioner will take a comprehensive case history, make a diagnosis and apply the appropriate acupuncture treatment. They will assess if moxibustion might be helpful.
Practitioners will then instruct women on how to locate the appropriate acupuncture points and demonstrate how to safely apply moxa at home. Alternatively, if you can’t find a practitioner in your local environment, you can order the moxa sticks through eBay and find videos on YouTube as to the correct application of the treatment.
The acupuncture point UB 67 is the primary point selected for use because it is the most dynamic point to activate the uterus. Its forte is in turning malpositioned babies. It is located on the outer, lower edge of both little toenails.
According to TCM theory, moxa has a tonifying and warming effect which promotes movement and activity. The nature of heat is also rising. This warming and raising effect is utilised to encourage the baby to become more active and lift its bottom up in order to gain adequate momentum to somersault into the head-down position.
This technique can also be used to reposition transverse presentation, a situation where the baby has its shoulder or back pointing down, or is lying sideways across the abdomen.
How effective is it?
A 3 year study published in AJCM (2001) based in a facility where 1437 births were reported examined how effective moxibustion and acupuncture were in turning breech presentation.
Only women who were 28 weeks pregnant or later diagnosed with breech presentation were entered into the study.
The control group consisted of 224 women. This group was given exercise and external cephalic manipulation. They had a spontaneous correction rate of 73%.
The experimental group consisted of 133 women. They received 30 minutes of moxibustion to UB67 daily and acupuncture, but no exercise or external cephalic manipulation. They had a correction rate of 92%.
The study concluded that acupuncture and moxibustion is a safe and effective modality to correct breech presentation in a clinical setting.
Moxa-therapy in breech presentation: some facts from England and Wales
Three thousand years ago, Chinese acupuncturists started to treat pregnant women with moxa-therapy. Scientific research has increased the knowledge about and trust in acupuncture in our western society. In the Journal of the American Medical Association, a study was published in 1998 about moxa-therapy in pregnant western women.
In England and Wales, an estimated 710,000 babies are born every year. Just before birth, 23,450 of them, (3.5%), remain in breech position. Most of them will be delivered by Caesarean to avoid the risks of a natural breech birth.
The JAMA article has contributed to an increased interest in the UK for this treatment, as the study showed that with moxa-therapy, the chances of a spontaneous turning of the baby during the 33rd to the 36th week increased from 50% to 75%.
Fewer babies could be born in breech presentation if the mothers receive moxa-therapy between the 33rd and the 36th week. This can result in an additional 11,725 women yearly having a natural birth.
The safety of moxa-therapy
From the four research papers quoted on this site, no adverse effects have been experienced after moxa-therapy. The moxa-stick itself is of course hot. It should never touch the skin but kept at a distance of 1 cm (1/3 inch) as a minimum. If the treatment is performed carefully, it is without risks.
How does moxa-therapy work?
The way the moxa-therapy works can be explained using both the Western Physiology and the Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM).
According to the TCM, warming the Bladder 67 (or Zhi Yin) point in the small toe will create warming energy (Yang) in the pelvic floor. This warming energy will cause movement. The uterus is also situated in the pelvic floor, and the movement will cause the baby to move which can result in the turning of the baby.
According to western medical science, the moxa-therapy improves the blood circulation of the womb. This enhances the maturing process and increases the chance of the baby turning spontaneously. Furthermore, moxa probably stimulates the adrenal gland and the hormones the adrenal gland produces, and positively affects the muscular tissue of the womb. Owing to this, the baby would become more active and ultimately, could turn.
How to Administer Moxa at Home
Prior to commencing moxibustion, ensure the room is adequately ventilated as moxa can produce profuse, smelly smoke similar to cigarette smoke which can linger in a closed room. OR buy a smokeless version.
To burn moxa at home, you will need:
2 Moxa Sticks
Shot Glass or small glass
Administer treatment two times each day, 15 minutes per toe for two weeks, starting at 34 – 36 weeks. Repeat each day until baby’s head-down position is confirmed either by midwife, doctor or mother, or unless otherwise directed by acupuncturist.
The mother should position herself in a comfortable semi-reclined position so that her uterus is as open, relaxed, and as unobstructed as possible. Both pinky toes should be readily accessible. Moxibustion is best performed in the evening to take full advantage of the horizontal resting position of sleep. With less gravitational pressure bearing down into the woman’s pelvis conditions are more conducive to the baby turning. It takes several hours for the baby to turn and this will be easier if lying down, because the baby will not be sitting as firmly into the pelvis. It is not uncommon for women to experience increased fetal movement once the moxa is applied and for the hours following.
- Light candle.
Light moxa by slowly rotating moxa stick in the candle flame until tip glows red. This may take up to a couple minutes. You may gently blow air on the tip of the moxa stick to see if it is lit.
Once lit, hold the each moxa stick about 1 inch above BL67, the acupuncture point on the lower, outer corner of each pinky toe nail.
Gently move the moxa sticks above each BL67 in a circular motion, clockwise or counterclockwise. As you rotate, visualize the moxa opening and widening the mother’s uterus to make more space for the baby.
When the mother reports that either toe is too hot, remove the moxa from her toe for a few seconds to cool down. Then resume above the toe again.
As the moxa stick burns, ash will collect on the tip, blocking the heat. Knock or scrape the ash off the stick into the shot glass and resume above the toe.
At the end of the 15 minutes, extinguish the moxa in the ash that has collected in the shot glass.
An obstetrician or midwife will confirm if the baby has turned, however most women report having a strong body sensation of the baby moving and somersaulting at the time it occurs. Moxa should be ceased as soon as the woman knows for sure that her baby has turned.
Breech tilt is a positioning technique aimed at discouraging the baby’s bottom from settling into the pelvis. Women can begin this technique from 32 to 35 week’s gestation.
Begin by propping one end of an ironing board securely on a sofa or chair slanted at 30 degrees incline. It might be necessary to bolster the sides to prevent the ironing board from slipping or tipping.
Lie face up on the ironing board with your feet pointing towards the elevated end. That is with your head positioned lower than your feet. Bend your knees, keeping your feet flat on the board.
Begin by taking deep, relaxing breaths in this position, and try to avoid tensing your body. You might like to use your breath to help deepen your relaxation by focusing your mind on counting your breath. Inhale for the count of 4 and exhale for the count of 4, so the length of inhalation roughly matches the length of exhalation.
Alternatively use the ‘I let go’ breath. The inhalation will just happen and on the exhalation repeating to yourself ‘I let go’. As you exhale feel the tension of the day and the week passing, inviting the body to enter into deeper rest and relaxation.
Sound vibration also seems to help activate the baby in this position. The buzzing sensation and noise of an electric toothbrush on the lower abdomen or i-pod speakers placed over the pubic bone with classical music playing might also be combined when in this position.
Use this technique for 10-15 minutes 2 to 3 times per day until the baby flips.
England & Horowitz (1998) suggests that breech tilting 80% effective to turn breech between 32-35 weeks.
Breech tilt is best practised on an empty stomach, and at times when the baby is most active. The gravity of the incline pushes the pelvic contents up and helps the baby to fall back from the pelvic brim. The theory is that on standing the baby will have more space and momentum to somersault and greater opportunity for the heavier head to sink downwards.
Another treatment that could be utilised to turn a breech baby is chiropractic. Sometimes the baby cannot get into the head-down position, because the pelvis is not in the correct position itself to allow this. Visiting a chiropractor can help rebalance the pelvis and correct any dysfunctions caused by looser joints.
There is no fool proof technique that guarantees a late-term baby will turn from a breech position. Moxibustion is a surprisingly effective, safe, non-invasive treatment worth women considering should they wish to attempt to turn their baby naturally and avoid restricting their birthing options.
Unfortunately, however a percentage of babies will invariably stay in the breech position until birth, making their grand entry into the world bottom first. If this is the case for you, and you really would prefer a vaginal birth, rather than a Caesarean, discuss this with your care providers and ask around as much as possible to find one who is confident in facilitating breech births.
Please note that this information is for general advice only and women should check with their health care provider before attempting to use moxibustion treatment to turn their baby, to ensure that no contraindications apply.
England, P. & Horowitz, R (1998) Birthing From Within: An extraordinary guide to childbirth preparation (p286), Patera Press: USA
Kanakura, Kometani, Nagata et. al. (2001) Moxibustion treatment of Breech presentation, AJCM
Cardini, F & Weixin, H (1998) Moxibustion for Correction of Breech Presentation A Randomized Controlled Trial, JAMA: 280(18):1580-1584.
From a qualitatively point of view, this study is the best article of the four. Partly due to this, the renowned and western, regular medical science focused journal JAMA (Journal of the American Medical Association), accepted the study for publication.
A total of 260 women were screened on the effect of the moxa-therapy. Half of the women were given moxa-therapy, the other half were not. After two weeks of moxa-therapy, 98 children (74.8%) had turned to the right position compared to 62 children (47.7%) in the group without moxa-therapy.
This paper has also shown an increase in foetal movement. During the moxa-therapy, the babies were more active than the babies were whose mothers did not receive the therapy. Scientifically, it can be assumed that one of the factors playing a role in the turning of the baby is the increase in movements of the baby.
Neri I, Airola G,Contu G, Allais G, Facchinetti F, Benedetto C. (2004) Acupuncture plus moxibustion to resolve breech presentation: a randomized controlled study. J Matern Fetal Neonatal Med. 2004 Apr;15(4):247-52.
This was a large study, including 240 women whose situation was not measured after the moxa-therapy, but just before labour started. The results were very promising: from the women who received moxa-therapy, 53.6% of the babies had turned compared to 36.7% in the control group.
Habek D1, Cerkez Habek J, Jagust M. (2003) Acupuncture conversion of fetal breech presentation. Fetal Diagn Ther. 2003 Nov-Dec;18(6):418-21.
This study has the same set up as the JAMA study mentioned above but less women took part. The results however were similar: moxa-therapy seems successful during and after the 34th week in 76.4% of the cases. The chances of a baby turning spontaneously without moxa-therapy was shown as 45.4%.
Kanakura Y1, Kometani K, Nagata T, Niwa K, Kamatsuki H, Shinzato Y, Tokunaga Y. (2001) Moxibustion treatment of breech presentation. American Journal of Chinese Medicine. 2001;29(1):37-45.
In this study, the women received moxa-therapy after the 28th week of their pregnancy. This gave a higher success rate: 73.66% of all children turned spontaneously without the moxa-therapy, 92.48% of the children turned after the mother was given moxa-therapy.
Recently, someone asked the following question:
“My husband is a being a complete nightmare. My baby is 8 months old and I’m breastfeeding. I really can’t think of anything I want to do less than have sex. He’s now acting like a toddler, stomping around the house and having a tantrum because we have only had sex three times since our baby was born. He told me he’s going to stay in a bad mood until I put out, lol! I just want to know if after 8 months my sex drive should be back or whether I’m still normal!! Men, eh?”
My response to this is:
Both of your feelings are perfectly valid 🙂 The problem comes from each of you viewing the other person’s feelings as unacceptable, which creates disconnects in your relationship. Men tend to view sex differently to women; to them, we show our love for them through our sexual interest in them, so that very valid feeling we have of feeling touched-out, in pain, exhausted etc, is interpreted by them as “My partner doesn’t love me any more”, the thought of which would create sadness and a sense of rejection in anyone, regardless of gender.
His behaviour, whilst seeming ‘childish’ to you, IS a cry for attention, but not perhaps in the way you might think. He needs to feel still loved by you, which for men, as I said, is more about sexual interest in them, and also respect and appreciation. The huge changes we go through during pregnancy and birth, and parenting afterwards, affects both partners, but in different ways, and both parents need to still feel they are getting some of their needs met.
Can you show sexual interest in him again, even without the actual act of full sex, if that is painful/uncomfortable for you? Even something like giving admiring compliments of his body again, or trying to make a point of kissing him more passionately when he gets in from work, could give him a sense of “She DOES still love me” and start healing that disconnection in your relationship that you both feel is starting to happen.
The key is to rebuild that connection between you, IF you want the relationship to last, by trying to understand what is going on for the other person at a deep level, rather than just surface behaviour. I’m sure you equally feel unheard by him and that is causing some of your exasperation, but if the long-term goal is to stay together, it’s important to start connecting again by attempting to start meeting some of his needs, in a small way that isn’t compromising your needs either.
I recommend The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts as a great resource for helping identify each others needs and working towards meeting them, something you could do together and rebuild your sense of yourselves as a team working together rather than both at different ends of a spectrum, pulling against each other…
“But not all men act in this manner and behave so childishly when they don’t get their needs met…?”
No, people don’t all act the same way in certain circumstances. But since you are asking about your OWN husband’s behaviour, and since I’ve studied relationship psychology, counselling, and communication skills, I was attempting to understand what underlying thoughts and feelings might be driving his outward behaviour from a point of rebuilding connection in their relationship, because calling someone names usually creates MORE tension, negative feeling and disconnection, rather than rebuilding connection.
If you had said you’d had enough and wanted to leave, my response would have been very different, but my sense is that you want to stay with him rather than feeling more conflict with him. If I’ve misinterpreted your intentions, then, just like everything else on the Internet, you can take what resonates with you and ignore anything that doesn’t 🙂
I have a view that it’s better to have access to a full tappas bar of perspectives to listen to and choose from, and even between a couple that have been together for a long time, each individual can have their own views/beliefs/values that drives their outward behaviour, often without them even realising it. Attempting to interpret this man’s behaviour in the context of his sense of rejection (something research shows occurs a lot after the birth of a child) wasn’t an attempt to justify his behaviour, but to explain it in a way that might help you view it from a more connecting perspective rather than getting into a more “him versus me”, he’s selfish etc etc mindset. There are other perspectives that offer that view; I just offer an alternative that may or may not be correct, so you can take what I’ve written and decide for yourself if that could be what’s going on with him from the context of what you know about him as a man already. If he’s always behaving in this manner, even before the pregnancy, it’s up to you to weigh up if this behaviour is something you are not prepared to tolerate. But if he’s a generally decent man who normally is kind and considerate, what I’ve said could allow you to view him as just having a ‘blip’ and even save your marriage….
The point here is about intimacy. Things have changed, of course, with the arrival of a little one, but if you both try to make sex/intimacy one of life’s priorities, not as a chore or to please him, but as something that could bring you closer together on all levels, you may find things shifting for the better between you again. It can be such a powerful ‘connector’ for couples and it’s so easy to put off, but it’s another way of ‘connecting’ with each other and I can imagine he just wants to feel close and intimate with you again after the arrival of a new baby has brought such a steep learning curve and drastic change of lifestyle into both your lives.
You have all that rush of the love hormone oxytocin that helps with bonding with your new baby, something which happens physiologically with every feed naturally. But he doesn’t have that at all as men obviously can’t breastfeed, so his only source of hugs and kisses (and that delicious feeling of being loved) is now only interested in someone else, even if that someone else is his child. For men, when a new baby comes along and his partner falls totally in love with them, it can feel like she’s having an affair on an emotional and physical level, even if logically he knows it’s his own child that is taking all her attention away. But emotions are rarely logical!
So I offer this perspective to any new parents struggling with this issue, and strongly suggest that you recognise the need to keep intimacy alive in your relationship, prioritising it in ways that strengthen your connection.