Your Value Never Decreases :)

A well known speaker started off her seminar by holding up a $20 bill. In the room of 200, she asked. “Who would like this $20 bill?”

Hands started going up. She said, “I am going to give this $20 to one of you – but first, let me do this.”

She proceeded to crumple the 20 dollar note up. She then asked. “Who still wants it?” Still the hands were up in the air.

“Well,” she replied, “what if I do this?” She dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with her shoe. She picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. “Now, who still wants it?”

Still the hands went into the air.

“My friends, you have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20.

Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless; but no matter what happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who love you. The worth of our lives comes, not in what we do or who we know, but by …WHO WE ARE.

You are special – don’t ever forget it.”

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What if You Don’t Know What You Want to be When You Grow Up?

It’s a common question that people ask themselves as they go through life, and can cause a great deal of anxiety when you reach certain stages in life (such as choosing which GCSEs to focus on studying in high school, choosing a career to focus on etc) and you don’t know.  This great TED talk has answers for people just like you (and me!), who have reached middle-age and STILL don’t know what we want to be when we grow up…

The Importance of Responding to Baby’s Cries

And this is what studies have also shown ‘extinction methods’ of sleep training such as crying it out do to babies and children.  As a culture we seem to be very uncomfortable with the sound of anyone crying, and I suspect this is because we have long learned to silence our own cries.  So the sound of someone else giving voice to their own pain or discomfort triggers our own unheard feelings.  This triggering of discomfort in ourselves is an indication that we need to heal our own pain and learn again to listen to our own feelings, and express them safely.

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Nature is so amazing, and we still haven’t even scratched the surface of what we ‘think’ we know, despite how knowledgeable we like to think we are!  More research into this could provide a cure for Alzheimers.  Plus, on a personal note, yet another reason for me to celebrate having two beautiful sons 🙂 Heart3.2 copy


Everything We Think We Know About Addiction Is Wrong

This idea also takes us right back to the importance of attachment and connection between babies and their caregivers 🙂   I don’t know why it seems so hard for modern society to grasp but we are a species that NEEDS attachments and social connections to thrive, and when we don’t get those, it creates social challenges, the consequences of which then spread out and affect many of us. Connection is key to solving a fair amount of societies ‘problems’, from what I’ve seen and researched over the years… Heart3.2 copy

Fall in Love with Yourself!

Louise Hay attributes all physical health conditions to lack of love for the self.  Instead of telling yourself negative messages, try mirror work and tell yourself how much you love everything about you.  As this clip from a Luc Besson film shows though, that can be incredibly challenging if you’ve criticised yourself for most of your life.

So start small!  Find one thing to genuinely love about yourself and compliment yourself on that first. It could be something as simple as the colour of your eyes, or the fact that you treat people kindly.  Keep repeating the message, until it feels easy, then find something else and build on the foundation of self-love you are creating.  Find a time when you’ll be able to do it every day, perhaps whilst you’re brushing your teeth and already standing in front of a mirror anyway.

But keep doing it, because you’re worth it… Heart3.2 copy