Category: Mind

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The Importance of Responding to Baby’s Cries

And this is what studies have also shown ‘extinction methods’ of sleep training such as crying it out do to babies and children.  As a culture we seem to be very uncomfortable with the sound of anyone crying, and I suspect this is because we have long learned to silence our own cries.  So the sound of someone else giving voice to their own pain or discomfort triggers our own unheard feelings.  This triggering of discomfort in ourselves is an indication that we need to heal our own pain and learn again to listen to our own feelings, and express them safely.

The Loudest Silence I’ve Ever Heard

Baby’s DNA Becomes Incorporated in the Mother’s Brain During Pregnancy

Nature is so amazing, and we still haven’t even scratched the surface of what we ‘think’ we know, despite how knowledgeable we like to think we are!  More research into this could provide a cure for Alzheimers.  Plus, on a personal note, yet another reason for me to celebrate having two beautiful sons 🙂 Heart3.2 copy
 

 

Everything We Think We Know About Addiction Is Wrong

Everything We Think We Know About Addiction Is Wrong

This idea also takes us right back to the importance of attachment and connection between babies and their caregivers 🙂   I don’t know why it seems so hard for modern society to grasp but we are a species that NEEDS attachments and social connections to thrive, and when we don’t get those, it creates social challenges, the consequences of which then spread out and affect many of us. Connection is key to solving a fair amount of societies ‘problems’, from what I’ve seen and researched over the years… Heart3.2 copy

Fall in Love with Yourself!

Louise Hay attributes all physical health conditions to lack of love for the self.  Instead of telling yourself negative messages, try mirror work and tell yourself how much you love everything about you.  As this clip from a Luc Besson film shows though, that can be incredibly challenging if you’ve criticised yourself for most of your life.

So start small!  Find one thing to genuinely love about yourself and compliment yourself on that first. It could be something as simple as the colour of your eyes, or the fact that you treat people kindly.  Keep repeating the message, until it feels easy, then find something else and build on the foundation of self-love you are creating.  Find a time when you’ll be able to do it every day, perhaps whilst you’re brushing your teeth and already standing in front of a mirror anyway.

But keep doing it, because you’re worth it… Heart3.2 copy

 

Why Self-Care is So Important after a Loss

A Funny Little Story to Share with You about Manifesting!

I take my child to school on the bus and one day last week, on my way home after dropping him off, I was pondering whether the bus driver receives any other indication that a passenger wants to get off the bus, apart from the audible bell when someone presses the button. I pressed the bell for my stop and when it got closer to where I get off, I noticed the driver wasn’t slowing down, so I stood up and headed to the front of the bus.
 
As we came almost alongside my stop with no sign of stopping, I pressed the button again and the driver asked me if I wanted the stop we were just passing. I laughed and said “Yes! I DID press the bell earlier, but perhaps you didn’t hear it…”. He laughed too and said “Sorry! My phone went off so I thought the bell I heard was just THAT, and there isn’t any other indicator to let me know someone wants to get off the bus!”.
 
He pulled over just after my stop and I got off with a cheery thank you and goodbye, and silently thanked the Universe for so quickly answering my question 😀 I’ve ridden on buses for YEARS and never had the driver go past the stop I want after ringing the bell, so this DID make me laugh!!
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How it Feels to Have a Chronic Health Condition Breakthrough!

Hey amazing LoveYourLifers! I asked on a mastermind group I’m part of a couple of weeks ago about setting goals when one has a chronic health condition and they came up with some beautiful suggestions 🙂
 
Following that post, I set an intention that I was going to open my mind even further to different healing modalities, even though I’m already into alternative and holistic health anyway, but the methods I’ve tried so far hadn’t given any real relief.
 
I also felt very down and negative about my health (exacerbated by quite severe pregnancy nausea too, which has been hanging on for three months now). So I dropped down into a bit of a whinge-fest for a couple of days and allowed myself to really FEEL the frustration and loss of health/lifestyle I’ve experienced over the last few years, and let myself truly wallow in how shit it feels sometimes, when I’m usually trying to smile and put a positive face on!
 
And because I allowed myself permission to feel TRULY negative about it for a change, I suddenly reached a place of positivity and hope for the first time since I became ill, and my mind was then drawn to a book that I’ve had on my shelf and read once years ago, but it didn’t really resonate at the time – “You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay. I picked it up and started reading (bearing in mind that since I became unwell, I’ve been unable to read properly too – hell for a passionate bookworm like me!), and things started to click into place in my mind! Then I remembered I also had the DVD of the same name, so I watched that! And my goodness, that really resonated with me too!!
 
I was also sent a Groupon notification about a massive discount on a nutritional therapist training course, and the Universe nudged me (well, screamed at me is probably more accurate!) to sign up, so I did! And the information I’ve gleaned so far from that is really resonating with me, all about epigenetics and how different genes can get switched on depending on the nutritional and emotional environment within the body, which can lead to different symptoms/health conditions (but more importantly, can also lead the genes to be switched OFF again when you change the nutritional and emotional environment within the body, potentially switching off the symptoms/health conditions too, even genetic ones like mine and my children’s!).
 
So now I finally KNOW what my goals need to be for the next 5 months or so whilst I finish growing this baby – really dive in and do the work in the book! This is going to improve the emotional environment of my body and hopefully help switch my ‘symptom genes’ back off again 🙂 And since it can’t do any harm (unlike the pharmacological drugs that are the usual treatment prescribed, and which I’ve so far refused to take since I became unwell, so I get no real relief from the symptoms!), I can ‘treat myself’ whilst pregnant without worrying about causing the baby damage (y) So NOW I can start creating SMART goals that resonate and actually feel realistic for my current state, such as create 10 healing affirmations that I need to work on, print them out and stick them in places around the house where I will see them several times a day, etc 🙂
 
I thought I’d share my story because I know that sometimes, we can feel pressured to ALWAYS try to feel positive about the crappy things that happen and then not allow ourselves the space to really grieve and let go, when that might be the very thing we NEED to do first before healing can begin to take place. It was only when I gave myself permission to actually grieve that the (brain!) fog began to clear at last and I was able to start seeing things that would genuinely help for ME (for instance, I have a strong scientific background and logical mind and although I’ve always felt strongly drawn to the esoteric, I need scientific explanations for WHY they work to be able to ‘get’ them – the epigenetics explanation was one of those Aha moments I needed!). I’ve kept reading about how I should ‘find the gift’ of my experiences, but then I would mentally beat myself up for not being able to ‘see’ them, even after so many years of feeling unwell! But I needed to work through the grieving process first to THEN be able to see things differently, and allow my clouded vision to clear enough to be shown the next step along my path, even if I haven’t yet been shown the whole journey yet!
 
Hope this has helped someone and wishing you all well on YOUR next step of your journeys… Heart3.2 copy
Resources:
 
I’ve been through these beautiful cards and found ones that resonated with me, keeping them out to read every day and remind myself that I CAN change my thoughts about my health and body 🙂

Leonie Dawson’s Shining Biz and Life Academy – a place of love, nurturing, support and compassion, along with eCourses, meditations, and other resources to help you Love Your Life even more!  I’ve been a member for years and have gained so much from being part of this special community on the ‘net 🙂

How Ordinary People Can Live an Extraordinary Life!

How Ordinary People Can Live an Extraordinary Life!

“The effect you have on others is the most valuable currency there is”

My wonderful 9 year old son is so much like Jim Carrey! He is deeply sensitive to other people’s negative emotions and he tries so hard to transform those into positive ones by making people laugh. His auntie came to meet him when he was just a few hours old, looked into his eyes, and saw the light and laughter in them, even then. She declared that he was going to be a ‘cheeky little chap’, and he is indeed! He’s ‘the class joker’, the one who loves to make people giggle and raise their vibration. Interestingly though, he doesn’t like performing on stage – he’s a one-to-one person, tuning into individual feelings and doing what he can to help them feel better, whether it’s offering a hug, encouragement and support, or a silly joke to make them laugh.

What can YOU do today, with YOUR talents, to leave people feeling better after an interaction with you/your work…?

What if Everything You ‘Know’ About New Year is Wrong??!

As we come to the end of a year and look towards the new one, it can be a time of unsettlement in our minds.  Our minds start to ask us questions as we attempt to evaluate and judge our worth against some benchmark we’ve mentally created; “What did I achieve this year?”, “What losses did I incur?”, “Did I achieve my goals?”, “Did I even bother to SET any goals?”, and then we can slip into a sense of ourselves as a failure when we don’t ‘measure up’ to our preconceived expectations.

We can mentally put pressure on ourselves JUST by focussing on the concept of a year as a finite resource, which is contrary to the concept that the universe is abundant. So we look at that concept of these 365/6 days defined as ‘2015’ and imagine we have to achieve X,Y,Z by the time they are ‘over’.

But that’s a mental construct that keeps us trapped into limited thinking. How about seeing each new day as the start of the next cycle of 365/6 days, and giving up the idea that any goal is to be achieved within the limited container of the 365 days that have been called ‘2015’, or we’re a ‘failure’?

My 2015, as our part of the world calls it, has been pretty bloody awful in many ways; lots of letting go and releasing old attachments, illness etc etc. But there were also some highlights in there too, which I’ve added to my Page of Gratitude 🙂  I’d previously written off this cycle of 365 days as unlikely to achieve anything positive in for my business, due to all the personal challenges and transformations I’ve been going through. BUT today I’ve signed up to start a 30 day challenge for December with a biz mastermind group I’m a member of, and I’m going to see what I CAN get done between my self-care days (what I call the ‘bad days’ when I don’t feel well enough to do anything!), and see today as the start of a new cycle of 365 days to move forward from!

Just because the rest of the world tells you a year starts on Jan 1st doesn’t mean you have to stick with that thinking! Nature didn’t define Jan 1st as the start of her new year – she just continues on her journey each day, regardless of the mental constructs some of us humans place on defining and labelling her 🙂 If she HAD to choose a date to label as her new year, she’d have probably chosen a time when she was in a state of renewal, like Spring. But then, we can’t even define THAT properly because the concept of Spring differs depending on where in the world you are! Which is why it’s kind of ridiculous to slap labels onto nature in the first place 😉

We can take that view too and start exactly where we’re at right now! In those terms, nothing has failed ‘this year’ because a 365 day cycle is constantly renewing itself, just like our whole bodies are in a constant state of renewal!

Hope that helps shift your perspective to a more positive place!

Much love and support to you all, Love Your Lifers, as always… Heart3.2 copy