Sometimes Mums struggle to breastfeed.
And sometimes, it’s photos like this that keep us striving to make it work, regardless of the sacrifice it takes.
Some Mums endure painful, sore, bleeding nipples, when every feed causes them such agony that their toes curl as their baby latches on.
Some Mums completely change their diets to be able to keep breastfeeding when their little ones have allergies; giving up dairy, wheat, soya, all so they can keep feeding.
Some Mums refuse medication for their own medical conditions, increasing their own suffering, because of concerns about a drug passing through the milk to their baby.
Some Mums express between feeds, morning, afternoon, evening and throughout the night, to either increase their milk supply, or provide enough milk for when they’re away from their baby at work, or if their baby is in special care, or if they can’t latch due to prematurity or disability.
And when it all feels SO hard and exhausting, when the sacrifice feels just too much, it’s photos of just HOW amazing breastfeeding is that might just keep that Mum from giving up, inspiring her to keep on keeping on for the sake of her baby’s health.
In this Facebook Post, a Mum describes how her daughter was ill and she pumped milk the morning after. The colour was vastly different to the usual white, more closely resembling colostrum, the antibody-rich first milk that Mums make to boost their newborn’s immune system and protect them in the first few days of life.
This article explains this process in more detail.
Our bodies are incredible! And deserve respect and a massive high-five for what they do, without us even having to be consciously aware of it 🙂
To all those Mums finding feeding a challenge but still trying to find a way to make it work, we salute you 🙂
And your babies salute you too
Parenting Baby B is a little like taking a 10lb + weight and fixing it permanently to your nipple!!! Your boobs are out more than Kim Kardashian’s butt! But your OWN ass is almost constantly welded to a chair, surrounded by everything you might need for the next 12 hours within grab range – snacks, water bottle, phone, breast pump, laptop, books etc.
Because you’re not going ANYWHERE!! Because whenever you try to unattach the 10lb + weight to do, oh I don’t know, trivial things like go to the loo or grab some more snacks, it gives off an instant loud klaxon noise, to alert the world that horrific child abuse is taking place 😉 And hearing that noise, and seeing that little face so unhappy, hurts my heart more than sitting in one position for hours on end hurts my body, even with my joints seizing up so that when I finally move, I’m like a cripple until I can stretch them out and gently ease them into moving again!
So it’s a good job that 10lb + weight occasionally opens its beautiful blue eyes, looks up at me from beneath long, beautiful eyelashes, and beams the most angelic smiles that would make even Emperor Palpatine turn away from the Dark Side 🙂 And is why, despite the challenges, I wake up every morning, feel my heart burst with pride and joy when I see that little 10 + weight, and attach it to me again, for another day of the same…
Nagging is ineffective and puts a strain on your relationships. Instead, try some of these ways to get what you want. Some are so easy you can start doing them immediately while you build up to the more advanced strategies.
Simple Alternatives to Nagging
- Do the maths! If you still need to convince yourself that nagging fails to get results, try counting how many times you repeat the same request. The tenth time is likely to turn out the same as the first nine attempts. You have everything to gain by trying a new approach, and remember the definition of insanity; doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results!
- Focus on the positive. Keep your eye on the big picture. When you think about how your family, friends and colleagues enrich your life, it’s easier to cut them some slack on the less pleasant details of your interactions.
- Do it yourself. It may be faster and more satisfying to complete a task yourself rather than waiting for someone else to do it. Learn to replace the air filter in your car. Sweep the stairs or wash the dishes even when your spouse was going to do those jobs this week.
- Become more flexible. Let your kids know that you appreciate their willingness to help out even if their methods are different from your own. Smoothing out the bedspread makes the room look tidier even if you have to give up on hospital corners.
- Let others experience the consequences of their decisions/forgetfulness. Maybe your children surprise you with a major craft project due the next morning on the same evening when you usually go grocery shopping. Eating cheese on toast for a week may help them understand the importance of giving you enough notice next time!
- Engage outside help. Consider paying professionals for chores that cause ongoing conflicts. A weekly housecleaning service may be worth the investment, especially if it saves your relationship. Find another parent at your child’s school who wants to take turns driving them to swimming lessons.
- Re-evaluate your priorities. Irritability is often a sign that you’re trying to do too much. Figure out which responsibilities are most important and which you can leave/delegate.
- Embrace technology. Brief text messages and automated calendar reminders deliver the same information with less risk of putting people on the defensive. Remind your partner that you have a dinner party tonight without saying a word.
- Take a time out. Deal with sensitive subjects when you’re feeling calm and collected. Sometimes the best thing you can do is take a walk until you settle down.
More Advanced Alternatives to Nagging
- Address the root issues. Probe more deeply to see if nagging is a symptom of deeper issues in your relationships. Marital counselling or parenting classes may help you get to the bottom of what’s going on.
- Ask for what you want directly. Work up the courage to state what you need clearly and tactfully. One skillful message beats years of beating around the bush.
- Listen well. Practice attentive listening. Concentrate on what the other person is saying and confirm that you understand. It’s easier to cooperate with each other when we feel validated and cared for.
- Nurture your self esteem. Some studies suggest that women are more prone to nagging because they feel like they have less power. Encourage yourself with positive self talk and pursue meaningful goals. Feeling strong and secure makes you less vulnerable to finding faults in others.
If you’re tired of repeating the same requests without getting the results you desire, it’s time to try some alternatives to nagging. Change your expectations and improve your communication skills. You may wind up with a happier family life and a cleaner house.
The annual summer holiday is a treasured family tradition that ensures family fun and relaxation. These days, the cost of a family get-away can seem astronomical due to the expense of holiday entertainment and accommodations.
However, you can avoid the cost and fuss of travel and lodging by making the most of the home you have created for your family. By prepping your home, you can create a fun, holiday-like atmosphere that’s relaxing for you and your family.Can't afford a summer holiday? Avoid the cost and fuss of travel and hotels by making the most of your home! Click To Tweet
Staycations also allow you to holiday with your pets in a place that’s familiar and comforting for them, reducing stress on your furry friends and the entire family.
Try these steps when planning for your next staycation:
1. Clean and organize your living space. A great deal of the enjoyment from staying in a hotel or resort is the clean, comfortable atmosphere surrounding you.
- Clean your house for tidiness and sanitation. Knowing you’re in an extremely clean environment will free your mind of worries that plague you during normal days at home.
- Completely catch up on your laundry. After all, even on a holiday outside of your home you would need clean laundry for the week. The goal of having clean laundry is to match the atmosphere and comfort level that you would experience at a place away from home.
- If you would prefer not cleaning your home yourself, search the numerous websites that give coupons or discounts on cleaning services. Websites such as Groupon and LivingSocial offer such coupons for many cities.
2. Plan activities to do in your home or surrounding area. A staycation should still be active. Staying at home the entire week of holiday is impractical and can cause friction after a few days. Survey and utilize your surroundings to plan fun activities for the entire family.
- Do some research in the weeks beforehand and have a game plan in place.
- Look into low-cost or free local attractions to visit during the day. Depending on the interests of your family, these may include a museum, butterfly garden, aquarium, or a picnic at the local park. Many local education-related venues allow kids in for free.
- Not every activity has to be outside of the home. Plan activities that your children enjoy doing, such as arts and crafts. If your children are older, play sports or set up a slip and slide in the backyard.
3. Turn off the electronics. In order to create a relaxing atmosphere it’s important to disconnect from everyday life.
- Turn off your cell phone and shut down your computer. Make arrangements with work beforehand and communicate that you’ll be out of touch for the entire duration of your holiday.
- On your work email account, you can set an automatic response that will reply to senders to let them know that you’re out of the office. This way, you’ll have peace of mind in knowing that your responsibilities at work will be handled.
Having a staycation is a positive, cost-effective way to take a break from your everyday life. Taking a short break from life’s responsibilities will allow you to become inspired to do better in other aspects of your everyday life.
Your mind, body, and soul deserve a break, even if an extravagant holiday is not financially viable at the moment. With a little creativity and some extra effort in planning, you and your family can experience a relaxing and rejuvenating holiday – right in your own home.
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